This piece is amazing. It is heart-breaking in its accuracy and truth, but it is AMAZING. It's gonna be up in my head and my soul for a long long time.
Everything you said about the word "b-i-t-c-h" so true. But I am at a total loss for the wife being a "bitch" being justification for any kind of unfaithfulness, in any video that a therapist, much less a christian therapist endorsed. Is marital fidelity something either partner should have to "earn?" a good marriage sure, both partners have to earn that. And is there behavior that justifies and/or excuses infidelity? behavior that might justify unhappiness, separation and even divorce? As a divorced woman who was cheated on I will never forget someone not realizing I could hear their comment saying something to the effect that my actions probably caused it . . . and I remember being sad that this man lived in a world where he might deserve someone being unspeakably hurtful to him if he wasn't perfect . . . of frankly, even if he had been unspeakably hurtful first. But more to your point, I suspect he didn't live in a world where he believe he ever deserves or earns someone else's unspeakably hurtful actions . . . given that he is a white man in America I guess I know he lives in a world where his hurtful actions could be justified be a woman's (or insert other minority's) lack of perfection.
What happened to two wrongs don't make a right?!?! just rambling really . . . told you this one was going to be with me deep for a long time. I really appreciate this post and how clearly you have tied all these subtleties together.
So many thoughts and feelings around this - thank you for sharing it and I'll be mulling on it for a while! I do have to say though, the amount of times when someone asks me how I'm doing and my head immediately supplies "Not well, bitch" speaks to how deeply I've been a student of the housewives. 😁
Marcie, this is excellent. I wasn’t raised to be that type of woman (whole other story) but I remember Marabel Morgan well and headed her words. Thankfully it was for a very short period of time. But I spent a lifetime torn between who to actually be and who I was expected to be. So many things that I would change. Thank you for putting this together.
100% yes! I say as a woman who is and has been a housewife/stay-at-home-mom for 18 years. This is exactly why Gen Z is constantly exclaiming, "Smash the patriarchy!" So much harm has been done and is being perpetuated. I don't know how to stop it exactly, but I appreciate that it's being acknowledged.
I stayed home from the time Max was 7 until they graduated and I did some homeschooling too. The pressure to be perfect was real. So harmful. And it came from the patriarchy that our gen zers are smashing!!!
This is fantastic. 🔥
Thank you 🖤
This piece is amazing. It is heart-breaking in its accuracy and truth, but it is AMAZING. It's gonna be up in my head and my soul for a long long time.
Everything you said about the word "b-i-t-c-h" so true. But I am at a total loss for the wife being a "bitch" being justification for any kind of unfaithfulness, in any video that a therapist, much less a christian therapist endorsed. Is marital fidelity something either partner should have to "earn?" a good marriage sure, both partners have to earn that. And is there behavior that justifies and/or excuses infidelity? behavior that might justify unhappiness, separation and even divorce? As a divorced woman who was cheated on I will never forget someone not realizing I could hear their comment saying something to the effect that my actions probably caused it . . . and I remember being sad that this man lived in a world where he might deserve someone being unspeakably hurtful to him if he wasn't perfect . . . of frankly, even if he had been unspeakably hurtful first. But more to your point, I suspect he didn't live in a world where he believe he ever deserves or earns someone else's unspeakably hurtful actions . . . given that he is a white man in America I guess I know he lives in a world where his hurtful actions could be justified be a woman's (or insert other minority's) lack of perfection.
What happened to two wrongs don't make a right?!?! just rambling really . . . told you this one was going to be with me deep for a long time. I really appreciate this post and how clearly you have tied all these subtleties together.
I was a divorced woman too! Cheated on too! I feel your every word.
So many thoughts and feelings around this - thank you for sharing it and I'll be mulling on it for a while! I do have to say though, the amount of times when someone asks me how I'm doing and my head immediately supplies "Not well, bitch" speaks to how deeply I've been a student of the housewives. 😁
I loved Dorinda for the moment. 🖤
Wow, those ads! 😳
I remember hearing years ago that Mormon women were the single most depressed demographic in America. This may be why.
I spent my time in the “healing and growth” corner of my midsized church too. It was a great place to be… but I didn’t absorb all the lessons well 🤣😉
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Marcie, this is excellent. I wasn’t raised to be that type of woman (whole other story) but I remember Marabel Morgan well and headed her words. Thankfully it was for a very short period of time. But I spent a lifetime torn between who to actually be and who I was expected to be. So many things that I would change. Thank you for putting this together.
I think so many of us have spent time in that torn space. Thanks for sharing.
100% yes! I say as a woman who is and has been a housewife/stay-at-home-mom for 18 years. This is exactly why Gen Z is constantly exclaiming, "Smash the patriarchy!" So much harm has been done and is being perpetuated. I don't know how to stop it exactly, but I appreciate that it's being acknowledged.
I stayed home from the time Max was 7 until they graduated and I did some homeschooling too. The pressure to be perfect was real. So harmful. And it came from the patriarchy that our gen zers are smashing!!!
I’m reading “women talking” right now and phew, it’s hard to read but so good. The tentacles of patriarchal theology run so so deep. 💔
Did they make that into a movie?
Yes! I’m a read the book first sort of person 😅
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